Monday, June 1, 2009

My Five Cents: Blogging and Friendship...

I found this postcard on Post Secret today. A lot of my friends read that website and will probably think I sent it in, but I did not. That is not even close to being one of my greatest secrets. However, seeing it made me think of a few things, and I don't hold out any hope that the reader of the blog referenced there will actually read this one here, but I want to put them out in the cyberspace ether anyway:

I realized that more of my friends read sites like Post Secret than my own. While that one is more than worthy, and while I do also understand the lure of "trendy" sites like Texts From Last Night, I can't deny that it makes a person feel kind of shitty when the people who are supposedly closest to them don't take part in actively showing support for their work and/or what they love to do.

If and when my show gets picked up or a book sells or whatever, and if and when this site takes off because of it, suddenly all of these people want to play the "I was her friend before" game, I will not take part. I will not give them credit for hanging out with me at movies and parties and whatnot because that is just superficial acquaintance-esque friendship. I would say "you know who you are" here, but it would be moot because they don't come here.

Friendship should not be a suggestive thing-- not when it's true. If you are someone's friend, you really should support them in their dreams and goals. It is one thing to not necessarily agree with some of the things they think-- or in this case, are writing about-- but it is quite another to not even show up. Think of it this way: if I was an actor instead of a writer, and I was in a play, the amount of "friends" who are not reading this blog can be represented by empty theater seats. Just because I can't look out into an audience and see the holes doesn't mean I don't feel their presence.

4 comments:

Jaime said...

I read your blog, Danielle. I don't comment on everything, obviously, but I DO read it. Just...in case you didn't know. :)

Jamie said...

I think you *should* be in a play. And it should be like Barney's play that he makes Lily sit through. There should be robots.

danielletbd said...

Haha yes this was not directed towards either of you. Like I said, those that it refers to won't find out because they don't come here. But I do thank you for your constant reading (and commenting when you can/feel like it) :) And really in the end, I write for me, but I like to think that the people I'm close to believe in me and what I love to do.

Amanda said...

Of course we believe in what you do! We love you!